Pentecost 14A
August 30, 2026
Romans 12:9-21
INTRODUCTION
Last week we witnessed one of Peter’s shining moments, as he correctly identified Jesus as the Messiah, the Son of the Living God. Jesus in turn says he will build his Church upon this rock. The shine didn’t last long, though. Today, Peter the rock will turn into a stumbling block, as he rebukes Jesus for saying that the Son of Man will have to suffer and die. And wouldn’t you? Who wants a suffering savior – wouldn’t we rather have an all-powerful one?
Of course, we know that Jesus is right on this one: suffering, and self-denial, and sacrifice are all a part of the life of faith. Even all the nice “marks of a Christian” that Paul will outline in our second reading require some sacrifice and self-denial at times. Turns out, Christianity isn’t about serving ourselves and doing what is best for us, but about doing whatever it takes to live out the gospel of Jesus Christ, to take up our cross and self-sacrificially love our neighbor. Our readings today address this head on. Let’s listen.
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Grace to you and peace from God our Father and our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
This week, after the world learned of the death of Dolly Parton, my social media feed was flooded with tributes to this famous and fabulous singer, songwriter, and philanthropist. One quote I saw said, “Her politics were people. Her politics were love, kindness, and compassion.” I couldn’t help but notice how seamlessly this observation brought to mind today’s reading from Romans, in which Paul exhorts the Christian community to, “Let love be genuine.” Dolly certainly did that!
I love this text. I even included it in our wedding, as a sort of guideline for what I wanted our life together to be like. My young-and-in-love self didn’t yet fully know just how difficult it is to live this way, especially when conflicts arise – whether in a couple or family, or in a church community, or anywhere. In fact, read alongside our Gospel reading, about denying yourself, losing yourself, and taking up your cross to follow Jesus, we really begin to see how much self-giving (or even self-losing) is required to live a Christian life.
It’s true: for a community that claims love of God and neighbor as a foundational tenet, it is surprisingly difficult to live together in loving Christian community. It never has been easy. It wasn’t for the Christians Paul was writing to, and it isn’t for us now. Preacher and author Barbara Brown Taylor imagines how this looks: “There were black eyes and bad feelings all over the place,” she writes. “Marcus went to the midweek service so he would not have to sit in the same room with Clovis on Sunday; Lucius was so mad at both of them that he had quit coming to church at all; and Chloe had just bought herself a pit bull to keep her pagan neighbors from cutting through her yard.” I find myself both chuckling and nodding at this fictional description – the details are different, but the feelings are familiar.
So how do we find a way back to faithful living, when conflicts arise? How do we, as Jesus says, “deny ourselves, take up our cross, and follow Jesus”? Paul’s words in Romans move us in that direction – so that maybe we can lose some of those oh-so-human struggles and feelings, and move toward genuine love. Each fragment of this text could be its own sermon, so in the interest of time, let’s look at just the first few verses.
Paul starts out by saying, “Let love be genuine.” This reads as a sort of thesis statement, with the rest of the paragraph showing us concretely what genuine love looks like.
First, it means that we “hate what is evil, hold fast to what is good.” I had the chance this week to sit on a panel with a local rabbi and a local imam, as a part of a retreat called Prayers for Peace. The retreat was focused on how we can unify our prayers, across religious tradition, toward praying together for peace. At one point the conversation turned toward the reality that none of us is all good or all bad. Each of the three faith leaders present spoke about how our respective traditions speak to this. The rabbi talked about how we are always faced with the decision between good deeds (mitzvot) and bad deeds (averot), and we always try to make the right choice, yet sometimes fail. I spoke about Luther’s assertion that we are all simultaneously saint and sinner, declared righteous in baptism, yet still captive to sin, and always trying to live into our saintly nature. The point for all of us, though, was that we do the very best we can, to turn from evil and cling to what is good. That is what we must do if we want to let love be genuine. It isn’t always clear, of course – there is far more gray in the world than there is black and white. The call here isn’t to be perfect, nor is it to ignore that evil exists. It is to recognize that there is both good and evil, and then to do the best we can to cling to the good.
Paul goes on to say, “love one another with mutual affection.” Other versions of the Bible translate this not as “mutual affection,” but as something more like “brotherly love” – the sort of love you find in a family. Now, that may not always be a helpful image for everyone. Families are not without conflict, struggle, and tension. At their worst, families can be some of the most difficult and conflicted communities we are a part of. But at their best, families are made up of people who continue to love one another in spite of those struggles and conflicts. Families – whether biological families, or church families, or found families – are people who understand that they belong together, and who are committed to working through all those struggles. They are going to find a way to live together, to “let mutual love continue.”
“Outdo one another in showing honor,” Paul goes on. “Do not lag in zeal, be ardent in spirit, serve the Lord.” The phrase that comes to my mind here is seemingly contradictory: zealous humility. When you show honor to someone, you defer to them, you give them priority and respect. That takes humility. But also, do that with zeal, with enthusiasm. Or at least, do it with intention. It reminds me of Martin Luther’s explanation of the 8th commandment, about not bearing false witness. Not only should we refrain from speaking badly about someone, but we should go the other way, intentionally speaking well of them, and interpreting their words and actions in the best possible light. Honoring them proactively. Boy, going back to Jesus’ call to deny yourself – doing this does sometimes require a denial of self. Because sometimes, I really would rather speak badly about someone, especially if it makes me look a little better. It’s that whole idea of blowing out someone else’s candle to make your own shine more brightly. But it never works. Instead, Paul says, shine an affirming light on the other.
And by doing this, we are serving the Lord. This was another point of commonality this week with my interfaith colleagues. All three of our traditions believe that humans are created in God’s image. We all have some teaching that says that when we serve the lowly, it is as if we serve God himself. So when we take the extra effort to show honor to our neighbor in need, even when it means downplaying ourselves, we are honoring God, serving the Lord.
Paul then writes: “Rejoice in hope.” One more story from my interfaith panel this week. The last question we were asked was, “Do you believe that peace is possible?” The rabbi immediately gave an enthusiastic, “Yes!” and the imam added, “Yes, but we may never see it.” That is where hope comes in – as Paul writes elsewhere in Romans, “Hope that is seen is not hope, for who hopes for what is seen? But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.” And that is how we approach the hope of a world better than we have. The rabbi shared a teaching from rabbinic tradition that says that if you are in the middle of planting a tree, improving the world, and the messiah should come over the hill toward you, finish planting the tree before you go to him. Keep working for a better world, keep working toward love and peace, until the very last moment. That is hope, the sort of hope in which we can rejoice.
“Be patient in suffering.” This is a tough one, and really makes me think about the Gospel, about taking up our cross. Because this is all really hard. God’s time is not our time, and things never seem to happen at the time and in the way we want them to. Sometimes as Christians we are called to live with things that are difficult, to be patient with others, to bear burdens that we'd rather not carry. But a bit of patience – with God, with each other, even with ourselves and our own lack of ability to deny the part of ourselves that is unsatisfied or frustrated – a bit of patience goes a long way toward living lives of genuine love together. And so we are patient in suffering, erring on the side of love, and trusting that God does have this in hand.
Paul then exhorts that we should, “Persevere in prayer.” This is an essential part of living in genuine love. I have heard it said that it is impossible to hate someone for whom you are praying. A friend of mine tells a story about a family conflict she had, where she had been deeply hurt by a family member. She hated him, and did not want to forgive him. She didn’t even want to want to forgive him. When she was finally able to pray about the situation, her prayer was to want to want to want to forgive him. Then it became, to want to want to forgive him. Eventually that prayer became that she would want to forgive him, and then finally, she was able to pray for the ability to forgive him. She persevered in prayer until she got to the point where the hatred melted away and she could once again be in relationship with this person. And so we are called to persevere in prayer, and to let the warmth of God's love melt the hardness of our own hearts.
Paul concludes here by saying, “contribute to the needs of the saints; extend hospitality to strangers.” In other words, the Christian life is one of giving. So often, especially in a world aimed at selling us stuff (whether that’s ideas, information, or physical stuff), we approach things in terms of receiving. What can I get out of this relationship? What is this person offering to me? When what we are receiving is frustration or offense, we are quick to bail. “I don’t need this in my life!”
How would it transform our relationships if we thought instead in terms of giving? How can I help that person? How can I be supportive to them? What could I do to be a bearer of Christ’s love for this person? Often it may be just a smile, or a word, or a simple act of kindness. It could be to empathize with them, and extend compassion. But if it shifts our attitude from one of “what you can do for me” to “what I can do for you,” then it can actually end up bearing more fruit in our own life than in the other person’s. We receive something after all.
It all comes back to that opening thesis: “Let love be genuine.” The call to genuine love, even within the Christian community, is not an easy thing! It often requires us to deny ourselves, and to take up our cross. But it is our calling. And with the calling, it is a promise that by God's grace evil will be overcome with good. That we will glimpse that peace that seems so elusive. That we will see and experience the new life that Christ died and rose again to give to us.
Let us pray… Loving God, you call us to let love be genuine. In our difficult relationships, help us to be patient, to give honor, to pray persistently, and to strive always toward the life you died and rose to give to us. In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.






