Monday, June 17, 2019

Sermon: Conflict management with the Trinity's guidance (June 16, 2019)


Holy Trinity
June 16, 2019
Proverbs 8:1-4, 22-31
Romans 5:1-5
John 16:12-15

INTRODUCTION
         Today, Holy Trinity Sunday, is a difficult one to preach or even talk about, because it is the only Sunday dedicated not to celebrating a particular event in Jesus’ life or the life of the church, but rather, a doctrine. And at that, it is a doctrine that is, by definition, impossible to describe, because as soon as you try to define God, you have limited God to something definable by a merely human mind. So what our texts do today is present to us some of the ways God works. They each (except Proverbs) mention all three persons of the Trinity. And they paint a picture of some small part of who and how God is. As you listen, don’t try to figure out exactly how to explain God, how the Father relates to the Son, relates to the Holy Spirit. Instead, just let the images wash over you, and sit in them, and imagine how these images of a Triune God can feed you and give you life. Let’s listen.
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Grace to you and peace from God our Father and our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
            We have begun our small group gatherings here at St. Paul’s, and the conversations have been wonderful. I have been touched by people’s willingness and openness to share things that are important to them – to entrust these things to me and to those gathered. And it has been beautiful to see people connect, not only over things we find mutually funny or interesting, but also the discovery that we share similar pain with one another, presently or in the past – and so are also able to love one another in the midst of it.
         Of course, none of us are strangers to pain and suffering. We are all bearing something, sometimes fresh, sometimes long past but still living in our awareness. Many of you know that I am a three-time cancer survivor – diagnosed first in high school, and then twice more in the first 18 months of my first call. One of my favorite prayers someone ever offered to me happened as I was enduring treatments for my third cancer diagnosis. A friend of mine from seminary wrote to me and said, “I’ve been praying for you, and telling God, ‘God, Johanna has enough character already.’”
            It was a reference to today’s wonderful text from Romans. It is such a powerful text; let me just read a part of it for you again: “We boast in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not disappoint us, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit that has
been given to us.” In just a few lines, the Apostle Paul has put meaning to the suffering we all endure – and though I admit it is not always very helpful language in the moment of suffering (like my friend’s prayer, I thought many times during my treatments, “Don’t I have enough character? Give me a break already!”), in hindsight it offers great consolation. Christians and non-Christians alike have used a similar image to get through times of trial: it is the hope and belief that “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger,” because we have exercised our emotional muscles and hopefully, as Paul suggests, gained endurance to weather what may come in the future.
         Many of the struggles we face are personal ones – a diagnosis, a death, a life circumstance changed. And these certainly can take a lot out of us. This week, though, I have been thinking especially about the sorts of struggles we face in our various communities. Anyone here ever have an interpersonal conflict, with someone you care about? Yeah, I figured I wasn’t alone in that! Such conflict is all around us – in politics, around major issues like abortion and immigration and guns and racism, and perhaps most difficult of all, in our families and among people we love. Because few things are as heart-wrenching as enduring major conflict with someone you truly love, or have loved, or want to love, especially if it is around an issue or topic that is important to you. So, in light of this, I wanted to look at what our texts today can show us about how faithfully to navigate such conflicts.
            First, we look to the Gospel. Once again, we have a piece of Jesus’ farewell discourse, the speech he gave to his disciples on the night before his death. Here he tells the disciples, “I still have many things to tell you, but you can’t bear them now. When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth.” I find this both frustrating and encouraging. It’s frustrating because it first requires us to admit: we don’t know everything. Jesus names it, straight out, saying we simply can’t bear knowing everything at once. Isn’t that frustrating to admit? I hate not knowing everything. We have a joke in my family of origin, because my dad is such a know-it-all. Whenever someone challenges him on a fact, he looks all smug and says, “Look it up!” And he is usually right. One time, just one time, I want to “look it up” and prove him wrong! I want to know the thing!
But the battle to be right or wrong doesn’t really help in arguments with people we love, does it? If it is always a matter of right and wrong, someone has to end up wrong, and someone else makes them so, and no one likes to be wrong, and no one likes when someone they love makes them feel bad or stupid. Plus, usually the most important arguments don’t have answers that are right and wrong; they are just different. I’m not talking about facts here, I’m talking about what is true for someone, what resonates with your heart. In that sense, one person’s truth might be different from another person’s truth, but that doesn’t mean one has to be right, and one wrong.
            And so a much harder, but more faithful way to approach disagreements is to listen to Jesus’ words, and take to heart the reality that we don’t know everything, and we never will – we cannot ever fully know the experience and feelings of another person. What we can do is put aside our insistence that we are right… and simply listen to one another, with open hearts and minds, and try to hear and understand as much of the other person’s truth as possible. That’s when that second, more encouraging part of Jesus’ statement can enter in: “When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth.” The Spirit will guide us into truth. But this can’t happen unless we first admit that we need guidance, and then let down our shield and sword and make room for the Spirit to do that important work. It requires humility, and self-awareness, and it may hurt a little, or even a lot, but as Jesus promises, this listening – to each other and to the Spirit – is what makes truth be known, and from there, healing and growth can follow.
            The next place to turn for guidance in this difficult work is our reading from Proverbs. We don’t hear from Proverbs very often in our lectionary, but this text is really quite lovely. Part of the reason I love it is that it describes the Holy Spirit’s role in creation, as God’s sort of assistant creator – but here the Holy Spirit does not possess the masculine identity that characterizes how many of us grew up knowing God. No, here the Spirit is described as “Lady Wisdom.” This is actually a fairly common way to describe the Spirit, as Wisdom, which is, in Hebrew, a feminine image. Here we see God as both male and female, creating both male and female, creating a world that has differences and different ways of understanding, and that very difference is what brings about life. We also see a God who, even in the very act of creating, works together in community. Bringing life is not an act that can be accomplished by one alone; it is a task to be done as a community, working together, delighting and rejoicing in one another’s work. When we are able to work together, we can be one, even in our differences, just as God the Creator is one with Christ and with the Holy Spirit. Genuine community is challenging, but it is also creative, enriching, and productive.
            Finally, we turn once again to where we started, to this text from Romans, because while all of this other stuff is good to work toward, none of it is possible without what Paul expresses here in Romans. Paul begins this chapter saying, “Since we are justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have obtained access to this grace in which we stand.” That’s a lot of dense, churchy words, so let’s break it down: the reason we are able to do all this hard work that is required in a fruitful, productive, loving community, is that we already have the gift and promise of God’s peace. It’s not a gift we have to earn. We have that peace already, not because of something we have said or not said, done or not done, succeeded or failed at, or even what we might still do, but rather, because God is who God is, and God does what God does. God loves us and accepts us despite our various shortcomings (and let’s admit it, there are plenty of those – if there is one thing we all have in common, besides God’s love for us, it is that we all make mistakes, and we are all sinners in need of grace!).
But here’s the really stunning news: because of who God is – one who justifies and loves and embraces even the ungodly, even those who make mistakes – because of who God is, we come to truly know the peace of God, and are empowered and encouraged to turn in love to extend the same grace, mercy, acceptance, and forgiveness to those around us, those with whom we are in community, those with whom we need to work and live each day.
Accepting God’s unconditional love for us can be difficult; extending that love, mercy and forgiveness to others can be even more difficult. But as Paul also tells us, we don’t need to know how just yet – the Spirit, Lady Wisdom, will show us how if we listen to her and leave space in our hearts and between our words and before our reactions for that same Spirit to move and breathe and do her thing to guide us toward the truth. With the help of the holy communion, the Holy Trinity, we, too, can grow in love for one another, becoming a holy community who loves, cares for, listens to, accepts, and embraces one another, even as we continually hold each other accountable to this holy call. May it be so.
Let us pray… Holy Three-in-One, we face divisions in so many facets of our lives, and in our passion for justice and righteousness, we don’t always remember to listen to the pains and experiences of others. Pour your Holy Spirit of truth into our hearts, so that even as we are assured of your peace and love, we are also empowered to hear what is true for our brothers and sisters, and move forward together as a community guided by and basking in the glow of your wisdom and grace. In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

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