Sunday, January 20, 2013

Sermon: Wedding bloopers turned grace encounter


2nd Sunday after Epiphany
Jan. 20, 2013
John 2:1-11

Grace to you and peace from God our Father and our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.

         Michael and I have been very busy lately planning our weddings. Yes, weddings, plural – one in California, and a reception and short ceremony here in Rochester a few weeks later. I think it will be mostly pretty traditional, though there are a few customs that have arisen over the years that we think are silly or cheesy that we are foregoing. But some superstitions we can’t let go of. For example, Michael will not see me in my dress until the day of. And, I have been on the hunt for something old, something new, something borrowed, and something blue. You know, I’ve also heard that, as much as every couple wants things to be perfect on their wedding day, it is good luck if something goes wrong – it rains, a groomsman (or the groom!) passes out, the bride’s heel breaks, etc. Who knows – I figure as long as we end up married at the end of the day, it will be a success, right?
         Well, if something going wrong on the wedding day is the key to a successful marriage, then the couple in today’s Gospel reading is in luck, because they are experiencing a major wedding faux pas: they have run out of wine, on only the third day of what is normally a week-long wedding reception! This is not a good sign for these young newlyweds. To run out of wine only halfway through the celebration is to not make good on promises only just after they have been made! They would be the talk of the town, and not in a good way.
         Lucky for them, they invited Jesus and his mother to the party. The way John writes the exchange that follows sounds a little stilted to our modern ears, but when you think about it, it is so very human – a conversation you have probably had with your own parents or children. Jesus has, for the first 30 years or so of his life, been lying low. I mean, he hasn’t yet “come out” as the divine Son of God. He’s just a regular guy. (This wedding event, see, is known as Jesus’ first miracle, or sign – until now, he hasn’t done anything out of the ordinary.) His mother, of course, knows better – she knows quite a bit about his potential. And so when she sees that the people throwing the wedding party are in danger of becoming the village idiots for the oversight of not having enough wine for the guests, she goes to her remarkable son. “Listen, Jesus,” she says. “They’re out of wine.” And then she gives him that look that only a mother can, silently urging him to do something about it and save face for her friends, the wedding family.
         I can just see Jesus here. I’m sure I’ve acted just like him, in fact. He’s got this whole plan, see, about when he’s going to make his grand entrance into the world as the divine Son of God. And so I can see him in this situation, looking at his mom like, “Mom, what are you doing? I’m so not concerned with this petty wedding faux pas. I got plans, and my hour has not yet come! I had a whole schedule in mind, Ma, so don’t rush me!” And his mother, in her motherly way, simply gives him that knowing look, turns to the nearby servants, and says, “Just do whatever he says, will ya?” Mother knows best, right?
         And then there must be some sort of realization in Jesus. What made the difference? He had been so insistent that this was not the time, that his other plan was going to be the way to go. But then he goes ahead and tells the servants to fill up with water the six stone jars there – totaling some 120 gallons or more, and when they draw water and bring it to the chief steward, of course, that water has turned to wine. And hence, God’s grace and God’s abundance is revealed to the world, and at the same time, Jesus’ own remarkable, divine nature.
         So what made him change his mind? Perhaps the key is in those words, “My hour has not yet come.” As is so often the case, much can be gleaned from looking at the original Greek text here. There are two words in Greek that we translate as “time.” Do you know what they are? Cronos, and kairos. What’s the difference? Cronos refers to the earthly time, schedules, things that we at least think we have some control over. Kairos, on the other hand, refers to God’s time, something that lies beyond our comprehension or ability to plan. Interestingly, the word we see here that is translated as “hour” is in Greek, “hora,” and usually is used in reference to kairos, not cronos. So, it refers to God’s time, not our time. Or, it refers to a divine plan, not our schedules. So even as Jesus says, “My hour (kairos) has not yet come,” he is realizing that even if his grand plan for when he would reveal himself as God incarnate has not yet come, God the Father had something else in mind. And that something was that God’s grace and abundance would be revealed right there at the wedding feast in Cana. Apparently, Father knows best!
         Even though this is happening to Jesus, is it not something so true to our own experience? We make plans, schedules, in our cronos understanding of life, but God sweeps in with His kairos and changes everything around – thus giving an opportunity to seize upon an unexpected experience of God’s grace.
         This week, a friend of mine had such an experience. He was riding the subway, and was busy texting his mom. He was so excited and expressing his delight at God’s amazing work, because his grandmother, at age 89, had gotten out of rehab five weeks ahead of the schedule the doctor laid out. He was so busy texting that he got off at the wrong stop, 100 yards away from where he normally gets off. But when he did, he saw that a woman had fallen onto the tracks and needed someone to help pull her out, and there was no one else around to help her before the next train came around. Lucky my friend was there! Lucky we have a God who puts us off our predetermined tracks in order to allow us to participate in God’s grace!
         God is always disrupting our cronos, earthly time, in order to transform it into a kairos event. It’s so frustrating when that happens, isn’t it? And understanding is not always so immediate as it was for my friend. 
Another friend of mine from seminary called me this week. She is also planning to get married – a week after Michael and I, in fact – and is just starting her final semester of seminary with plans of graduating in May and starting her first call shortly thereafter. An exciting time of life, and so carefully laid out by my very meticulous friend. She had a biopsy on her thyroid last week, and called to tell me that while they were 95% sure it was nothing, she is in the 5%, and she has what amounts to pre-cancer on her thyroid. It has to have it removed. She reminded me of myself when she said, “I’m having it done close to school so I can get back to classes as soon as possible and still graduate on time.” A collision of cronos and kairos! This girl has a schedule, and she has every intention of sticking to it! Jesus, too, had a schedule in mind, until he was given the opportunity to seize upon a disruption in that schedule, and make an ordinary wedding feast in danger of going sour into an opportunity for God’s grace and abundance to shine.
         Here’s one more wedding story for you. Several years ago in the news was a story of a bride whose would-be husband got cold feet and abandoned her on her wedding day, leaving her with only her tears, and enough food for an elaborate reception. A shame to waste the food, she thought, and she sent messengers out to gather the homeless in the city. And they partook of a beautiful, bountiful, and unexpected feast. (Christian Century, 1/13/04)
         Cronos transformed into kairos. Our time and plans transformed in God’s time and plans. Like any collision or transformation, it can be a painful process. How often we utter a plea of, “Why this, God? Why now?” And the answer that comes is not always the same, and it is not always easy to see at first, or maybe ever. But just as when Jesus puts aside his previous plan, this cronos/kairos collision often becomes a place to witness God being revealed, a feast at which to taste God’s grace, a time to be amazed by God’s abundance.
         Let us pray. God, you have given us wonderful minds that can make plans and schedules, but you have also given us the promise that all time is in your hands. May we, like Jesus, be open to unexpected opportunities for your grace and abundance to be revealed to us and through us. In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

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