Sunday, December 7, 2014

Sermon: When parents leave their children in the wilderness (Dec. 14, 2014)

Advent 2B
December 7, 2014
Isaiah 40:1-11
Matthew 1:1-8

            Michael and I have been watching old episodes of the hilarious TV show, Modern Family. We recently watched an episode in which Haley, the fashionable, beautiful 17-year-old daughter, is trying to write her college application essay. She agonizes over the prompt, to write about an obstacle she has overcome. She laments to her mom that they have sheltered her, not let her experience real life, and as a result her life has been too easy and thus she has no obstacles to write about. Her mom, Claire, gets an idea. Her response is to look very somber and anxious. “Well honey,” she says, “there is a reason we shielded you from the truth.” Haley looks concerned. “Oh honey… you’re old enough, so I guess it is time you know. Come on.” Claire grabs her keys and a very confused Haley, and they drive out into the dessert a few miles from their suburban Los Angeles home. She brings the car to a
stop, looking distressed. “I can’t do this,” Claire says, building the suspense. “I can’t get out of the car.” “Mom, what is going on?” Haley wants to know. “Okay,” says Claire. “I want you to read what’s carved on that tree.” Uncertain, Haley gets out of the car, and takes a few cautious steps toward the tree. As soon as she turns her back, Claire hits the gas and drives away, leaving her daughter alone in the desert, calling, “Have fun gettin’ home! There’s your obstacle!”
            Later, having found her way home, Haley storms through the front door, with sticks and debris hanging from her normally carefully coiffed hair. “What was that?!” she shouts. “Are you psychotic? I had no money, no cell phone…!” Claire tells her to go write it in her essay. “Use spell check!” she bellows. No more sheltering for Haley. She had finally overcome an obstacle. (Season 3 episode 7)
            Leaving kids out in the desert, or wilderness, is no new idea. God uses the same one with his own children, but for a very different purpose. ‘As it is written in the prophet Isaiah, “See, I am sending my messenger ahead of you who will prepare your way; the voice of one crying out in the wilderness: ‘Prepare the way of the Lord.’”’ This powerful quote from Isaiah is how Mark decides to begin “The good news of Jesus Christ, the Son of God.” Why on earth would Mark choose to start his
gospel with a quote from 540 years ago? Why would Mark start Jesus’ story there, in a declaration coming from out of the wilderness?
            The reason Mark starts there is that the good news must start in the wilderness. It must start with us realizing our need, own brokenness, our darkness, our places of fear. If we didn’t start in the wilderness, then it would be like a plumber showing up at your doorstep when, to the best of your knowledge, you did not have any plumbing problems. If that happened, you would probably tell the plumber that he must have the wrong house, and send him on his way. And would we not say that to Jesus if we didn’t start off by realizing our need for this savior?
            Wilderness, at least the metaphorical sort, is all around us, is it not? Mark tells us that John was in a physical wilderness, proclaiming the need for repentance and for baptism, but wilderness can take on all kinds of forms. It need not be a wasteland by the River Jordan, nor a desert outside an LA suburb. Going back to that scene from the Modern Family episode: Haley’s mom taught her a lesson about obstacles in a physical desert, but in a way this was symbolic of Haley’s life more generally. Haley’s character is notoriously a girl without direction or vision or goals in her life. She has, up to that point, lived a sheltered life where everything falls into her lap, and indeed she has never faced the need for help or comfort. She is not like the Israelites to whom Isaiah speaks, who have been in exile, cut off from their roots and their history and their religious center, and who long for the comforting message Isaiah delivers about a God who is coming to bring them back to life. And Haley is also not like the crowds that John speaks to, who live under the oppressive political thumb of the Romans. She is not even like you and me – people who have lived through times of pain, spiritual drought, confusion, brokenness, longing, and loss. She had never had a real need in her life. She didn’t feel that need until she found herself alone in a literal wilderness.
            The difference, of course, between Haley’s wilderness experience and the one that John the Baptist refers to, is that in Haley’s experience, her mother leaves her there alone to fend for herself, to find her own way home. But in our own wilderness experiences, those times when we feel lost, abandoned, or even oppressed by people or situations, we are promised that God never leaves us alone. God is always there. And in fact, it is often when we are in the wilderness, stripped of the comfort, safety, and stability of our normal lives, that we are able to feel and perceive God’s presence most profoundly – if not in the moment, at least in hindsight.
            Why is that? Am I alone in this experience? I have found time and time again that whenever I am at my lowest point, when I am my most broken, my most weak, my most vulnerable – even, dare I say, when I am the maddest at God for not being around when I need him – it is when I am in this place, this wilderness, that I am most receptive to God’s urgings. Maybe it is because that is when I am so desperately searching for a godly presence. Maybe it is because my defenses are down. But I
also believe that the primary reason is that it is here, with the most vulnerable, those who are in the darkest places that is where God promises to be: with us in our wilderness. As we will hear on Christmas Eve, “A light shines in the darkness, and the darkness does not overcome it.”
            In my story about Haley, her wilderness experience prepared her to write a college essay on overcoming obstacles. For what do our own wilderness experiences prepare us? In the words of both Isaiah and John, these experiences help us to “prepare the way of the Lord.” Is that true?
Think about it this way: did you ever notice the irony that when we prepare for a special guest in our home, we put things away and get rid of clutter, and yet when we prepare for Christ as our special guest each Christmas season, we do this by adding more clutter to our schedules and our homes? We fill our lives with more, more, more. Yet in the wilderness experience, we feel we are left with nothing, and so God’s presence in our hearts becomes abundantly clear, God’s presence is what fills our lives. Does your life this season, with all its busy-ness, allow for the fullness of God?
Now, don’t get me wrong: I’m not telling you to put away your trees and your garlands and your lights, nor to cancel all your holiday parties. I have a line-up of parties myself, and we’re getting our tree after church today. What I am suggesting is that we think intentionally about how we might, in the words of one beloved Christmas carol, “let every heart prepare him room.” Perhaps this can be done by remembering a time in your life when you were in the wilderness, and remembering how Christ was with you in that time. Perhaps it can be done by making that story not only a past event that is never spoken of again, but rather one that is a continual part of your continual living, a part of
the story you still tell. Perhaps it can be done by sharing the story of that experience with someone else this Advent, giving voice to the way your faith has shaped your life.
            However you prepare room in your hearts for Christ this season, I hope that you will find time to do it intentionally, prayerfully, and faithfully, remembering how God has been in the wilderness of your life, and giving thanks for that presence. May your Advent reflections prepare a way for the Lord in your hearts.

            Let us pray… Lord God, we often find ourselves in the wilderness of life, feeling lost, confused, and alone. But you have shown that it is sometimes in these weak and vulnerable moments that you do your best work. Make us aware of your presence here, and empower us to share stories of your presence with others whom we meet. In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

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