Sunday, September 15, 2013

Sermon: "Sometimes lost, always found"


Pentecost 17C
September 15, 2013
Luke 15:1-10

Grace to you and peace from God our Father and our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
         We had a nice little hometown grocery store when I was s kid – my parents still go there. It is the sort of store that, when my dad comes through the checkout with a quart of milk, the checker says, “Oh, Lois was just in – she already picked up some milk.” Well, one day when I was a kid, I was shopping with my mom. I was maybe five years old. For whatever reason, while we were in the toilet paper aisle, I decided to pull out my defiant daughter hat, and would not budge. No, I would not follow her, I would not leave this spot. My mom, who is even more stubborn than I am, said, “Fine,” and turned around and walked away to continue her shopping. I watched her disappear around the corner, unbelieving that she was actually leaving, and as soon as she was out of sight, I freaked out. Uncrossing my arms, I went in frantic search of her – but I couldn’t find her. I looked down both of the neighboring aisles, but to no avail. My mom was gone, and I was lost.
         Not knowing what else to do, where else to look, I quickly went to the check-out and explained that I was lost. They asked my name; I gave it in full. The nice checker brought out the loudspeaker and said, “Would the mother of Johanna Kathryn Johnson, please come to register 7.” I waited with fear and trembling – I was just sure that when my mom arrived, she would be furious. It was stupid what I had done, I knew, and I would surely be punished. In short order, my mom rushed up to the register, and to my shock, she looked as relieved as I felt! We embraced, smiling, happy to have found each other.
But I did not quickly forget what it felt like to be lost. Feeling lost – it’s not unfamiliar to any of us here. Whether you have been physically lost (in the grocery store, for example, or driving in a new place), or figuratively lost, it is a feeling not at all foreign to any of us.
         I’ve been thinking a lot lately about being lost, and so it is no wonder that this lost and found theme of our Gospel lesson today has been ringing in my head all week. A shepherd loses a sheep and heads off into the wilderness to bring him home. A woman loses a coin, amounting to a tenth of her wealth, and she sweeps the house, searching from floorboards to rafters, until she finds it. 
In my musings on lostness, I have thought a lot about the relationship of being lost and losing something, especially something important to you – and I think the two are very much related. For most people, we are most comfortable when we are surrounded by people and things with which we are familiar. We like knowing what to expect, how things are supposed to function. Having that familiarity not only brings comfort to our lives; it also sustains us, fulfills us, and makes us feel safe. But inevitably, we lose a piece of that reality: we get divorced, or a loved one dies, or we move, or change jobs, or have a miscarriage, or get cancer. And when this happens, our familiar, comfortable reality shifts and changes. Suddenly the life we’ve always known looks and feels different, and by extension, we feel different. Our former self feels lost.
Who am I now, without that person in my life? Who am I, if I can’t conceive or sustain the life of a child? Who am I, without my job to define me? What is my new reality going to look like, and when is it going to feel like home? Will it ever feel like home? Will I ever stop feeling lost, and start to feel found?
         It is a helpless feeling, isn’t it? And we are so funny when we are lost. As a five-year-old, I apparently knew just what to do to be found: I went to someone I trusted who I knew could help me. Why isn’t it that easy anymore? Now, instead of seeking help when we’re lost, it seems we are tempted to hide – how counter-intuitive! I don’t mean we leave the toilet paper aisle and go and hide in the produce section and hope to be found there. I mean, we hide our feelings, and who we are. We hide behind masks of fakeness, trying to be something or someone we’re not. We hide behind exaggerations of a self we wish we were. Sometimes we do even hide physically, avoiding human contact, just nursing our wounds and feeling sorry for ourselves, but never stepping out the door so someone can see us can find us.
         Perhaps you heard a couple of weeks back about Antoinette Tuff, the school clerk who prevented a mass school shooting by talking with the gunman for about an hour. He told her he didn’t have anything to live for, he was ready to die that day, and he would take anyone with him. And she didn’t duck and run for cover – she listened to him. She told stories about her own life, times she had felt the same way. She referred to him as “sir,” and then as “sweetheart.” She told him she loved him and was proud of him.  She told him he did have something to live for. She related to him. She prayed for him. She grounded the whole experience, terrified as she was, in her faith in God. And in that hour of conversation, Ms. Tuff went into the wilderness and found a lost young man, humanized him, and in the end, convinced him to surrender, to turn around, to repent.
         In Jesus’ explanation of the parables, he says there is joy in heaven over a sinner who repents. I want to be clear that I in no way mean to imply that feeling lost is a sin. Whether you’re a notorious sinner like the ones in our Gospel, or by and large a pretty righteous person, we all can feel lost at times. But repentance is something in which we always need to engage. Repentance, you see, is a reorientation, turning around, turning toward God. And I don’t care how righteous you are most of the time, we are all by our very nature, sinners, and we all run the risk of losing sight of God, and often when we feel lost we are especially susceptible to this. So when we lose our way, but then turn back toward God, or are found by God, God rejoices. God rejoices when, in our lostness, we look out and search for God. God rejoices when we reach out to others who may be lost, and instead of judging them, or running from their pain and brokenness, we sit with them there, offering them a place of solace, a place where they can know they are loved, that they are found.
         Being found. That, of course, is the good news in our Gospel reading today. Because even when we are so lost that we can’t on our own turn toward God, God still goes all out to find us. As the parable goes, a sheep wandered into the wilderness, and the shepherd left the other 99 to go find that lost sheep. The woman lost a coin and searched tirelessly until she found it. Jesus asks, “Who of you would not go to these great lengths to find these lost things?” and all my life I assumed the answer was, “Everyone, Jesus! Yes we would!” But there was always a part of me that thought, “Gosh, leaving the 99 sheep for the sake of one? That seems awfully irresponsible.”  I always felt a little guilty that I probably wouldn’t actually do that. Practical girl that I am, I would cut my losses, move on, and be more careful in the future. But that’s the point, you see? We wouldn’t do that. We wouldn’t go to the extremes that the shepherd and the woman in the stories do to find what is lost.
         We wouldn’t, but God does. Our God is not about being practical. Our God doesn’t cut losses and move on. Our God goes into the wilderness to find us when we are lost. Our God tears the house apart until we are found. And in both of these stories, what happens when what once was lost is now found? Celebration! As the shepherd and the woman call together all their friends and have a party, so does God bring together all the company of angels to celebrate that a lost sheep has been found, that a coin has been rediscovered. God isn’t mad at us for getting lost, as I feared my mom would be in the grocery store 25 years ago. Like my mom, when God finds us, we are welcomed back with a huge smile and a look of relief, and there is celebration in heaven when we return to God, when we return home.
         Let us pray… Most merciful God, your grace is amazing, and we give you thanks that you find us when we get lost. Help us to place our trust always in you, knowing that your hand guides us and your love supports us through all of our trials and losses. In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

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